okay, so we’re having “friends-giving” at our house. in attendance will be the burkes, scott and nancy, my mother-in-law, also nancy, whose presence at a holiday gathering at our house a few years ago resulted in an extreme disagreement between myself and my racist bitch M-I-L which resulted in my isolating myself in my office, and ending the “salamandir taxi service” that she had enjoyed up until that time, and leanna aker, whose husband (ross) is in california with his father, who has cancer… and it is my recollection that, a few years ago, there was another “incident” at “friends-giving” at the aker’s residence, involving monique and her mother, which resulted in leanna getting REALLY pissed off at them — it’s also possible that the racist bitch part of my M-I-L was involved, but i have a notoriously faulty memory, especially for really unpleasant social situations, so i’m not 100% certain… apparently, monique and leanna have “talked it out” and, allegedly, nobody is pissed off at anyone, any longer, but…
basically, we’re having my mother-in-law AND a person who has been really pissed off at monique, at our house FOR A HOLIDAY MEAL… 🤯😖
this whole thing is happening thursday. 😒 and both my circus class AND my unicycle class are cancelled, this week, because of the holiday, and, because of the fact that the panto performances (remember them?), i only have one more unicycle class before the first of the year, and i HAVE TO remember to tell john that! HAVE TO!!
oh, also the birthday of this blog is this sunday, the 30th… it’s some random years old, now… i’m not inspired enough to check what it is. 😒
post native-american-day update: there was no blatant arguing or pissed-off-ness from anyone, although i WAS drafted into giving my M-I-L a ride home, which is the first time she has been in my car in four years.
i’m still not totally comfortable with her being in my car, because, while she was “perfectly nice and normal” on the way home, she was also “perfectly nice and normal” the last time, right up until the point where she said some things that were EXTREMELY thoughtless and racist, and, while she shut the fuck up when i called her out on her racism and thoughtlessness, she wasn’t certain WHY i was calling her out, and, apart from offering me a shallow apology for pissing me off, i don’t think she was totally aware of WHY what she said was so offensive, nor is she CURRENTLY aware of why what she said was so offensive, and she certainly hasn’t actually CHANGED the way she thinks. it was blatantly obvious to me that the only reason she was being so nice to me was because she didn’t want me to get pissed off at her again, and not because what she thinks is objectionable.
WHICH IS FINE WITH ME: let her think what she wants to think! it’s not up to me to decide what is ignorant, racist, or objectionable, for her!
BUT IT IS ALSO not “necessary” for ME to provide her with an easy means of getting to and/or from my home… or an easy means of picking up junk from a church that she thinks she’s going to be able to re-sell, and delivering it to her… and that sort of thing… which has become more and more common, recently.
the ONLY reason i have been doing those things is because i don’t want to raise a fuss WITH MONIQUE! and i will be CERTAIN to discuss these things with her, BEFORE the next time i will be expected to do them again! 😒





